One-night stands, casual hookups, and masturbating to the point where it messes up with your health and lifestyle… sex comes with a lot of guilt, shame, and PCD or “post-sex blues” (Postcoital Dysphoria) these days. As it turns out, sex is meant to be empowering, fulfilling and enlightening. So where did we go wrong?
The modern-day notion of sexual satisfaction is limited to the physical. In reality, the union of two bodies surpasses the bodily state and reaches the divine. It forges a divine connection that energizes your soul, brings your partner emotionally closer, and makes you “one with the universe”.
In this article, we will discuss how all this is possible with sexual spirituality, its meaning, and 10 ways to have spiritual lovemaking and find a sacred balance in the bedroom.
What is Sexual Spirituality?
Sexual spirituality goes beyond the physical orgasm. It involves energy orgasm – a burst of positive energy throughout your body and soul, expanding your consciousness. Your partner and their body are honored as a divine transcendence and vice versa. Instead of moving from one fetish to another, sacred sexuality is built on establishing a cosmic connection with your partner, by taking time, maintaining sensual eye contact, and gentle communication.
Benefits of sexual spirituality:
- It forges a cosmic connection between your soul, your partner, and the universe.
- It allows both partners to feel respected, valued, and appreciated.
- It brings you closer to your partner and most importantly, yourself.
- It helps you experience intimacy like never before.
- It facilitates your mental and physical health, consciousness, memory, cognitive abilities, and happiness level.
A step-by-step guide: 10 ways to practice sexual spirituality –
Things are about to get intense and exciting. It’s time to dive deep into the steps of how to have sacred sex.
- Accept that sex is not evil or wrong
Sex is the reason why humankind still exists. Yet, orthodox beliefs around the world consider sex as the root of all evil. As a result, many individuals suffer and fail to truly enjoy physical relationships. Instead, they are engulfed by feelings of remorse and shame.
The first step is to understand that there is nothing wrong with having sex as long as it’s done with the consent and respect of the boundaries of both partners. Your spiritual essence traverses the realm of humanity. You are a celestial being molded according to a sacred design.
Once you understand this, everything becomes easy.
- Set an arousing yet sacred bedroom atmosphere
Your bedroom should be free of clutter, especially your side tables. Make sure it’s neat and tidy. Keep it refreshed with natural room fresheners like essential oils, fragrant indoor plants, and pomander balls.
You can instantly create a romantic vibe by lighting up some sweet incessant candles. The fragrance shouldn’t be overpowering. Lay a silk or cotton bedsheet that’s specially reserved for the celebration of your love, body, and soul.
- Make cleanliness a core ritual
Spirituality comes to you when your mind, body, and atmosphere are pure and clean. Begin your cleanliness ritual by bathing in lightly scented body washes or cleansers. Encourage your partner to do the same.
You can either do it separately or let your partner join to amplify chemistry and attraction. If bathing before every sexual encounter seems tedious, you can replace it with a quick shower. Visualize washing away all your insecurities, stress, and anxiety with the water.
- Fly solo
Your spiritual sex experience depends a lot on your partner. If you fail to find someone who is empathetic and loving, or want to save yourself for marriage, there’s nothing wrong with going solo!
You can experience the same bliss with your own being. Don’t miss out on any of these steps just because you don’t have a partner.
- Recreate the magic of your best-shared experiences
The supreme being is omnipresent. Yet, sometimes you need to pray sometimes to feel his presence. Similarly, your relationship may be blooming with love. But reminiscing your best memories together deepens the bond further and heightens romance.
Play the love song that reminds you of the early stages of your relationship with them. Spray the perfume from your first date or wear the jewelry they gave you. It’s that simple.
- Heat things with the “essential oils” ritual
Finally, it’s time you get lost in the erotic heat only to find your true self. Begin the essential oils ritual by sitting in the middle of a floral circle. Embrace your partner and close your eyes. Touch your “Ajna” or third eye chakra with your partner.
Once you have initiated soul contact, it’s time to match each other’s frequency and stabilize it. Be seated in the same position and take 8 deep breaths in sync – inhaling and exhaling together. Now, gently massage each other’s ajna, chest, and sexual organs with an essential oil of your choice (preferably, rose).
- Be present in the moment
Sacred porn is not enacting the porn you watched. Neither is it about thinking of your past sexual experiences while making love to your partner. It’s being fully and totally present in the moment.
Neither you nor your partner should be stressed about being perfect in the moment. Just go with the flow and follow your intuition. Make eye contact with your partner. Stay mindful of your heartbeat and feel the enormous energy in your genitals.
- Let yourself loose to experience an energy orgasm
Follow the following steps to experience an energy orgasm –
- Begin by lying down in a comfortable position. Those going solo can sit in a way that promotes free movement.
- Close your eyes. Feel your third eye chakra and try to come in contact with your inner self.
- Affirm to let loose in the moment. Visualize your tensions leaving your body and you are now ready to experience pure bliss.
- Focus on your breath and the genitals’ area of contact.
- Correlate your spine with a sacred wave and move it smoothly in an upward and downward motion to amplify pleasure.
- Visualize the sexual energy teaching each part of your body through your genitals.
- Embrace your sexual freedom without judgments. Allow your body to express its euphoria by letting it move without restrictions and fully allow yourself to let out your glee/sounds of pleasure.
- End it with aftercare
There’s a reason why you cannot practice spiritual sexuality with a stranger – it requires compassion, respect, and empathy. As the name suggests, aftercare is about caring for your partner’s emotions after the spiritual experience.
It is all about talking about the experience with your partner, cuddling, sharing your views on what worked out and what didn’t, acknowledging what they enjoyed the most, and sharing a light snack.
- Put your expectations to rest
Spiritual sexuality can be a bit emotional, weird, and embarrassing in the beginning. You have never experienced something like this before. Thus, getting accustomed to it will take time.
Also, drop your expectations from your partner participating with you. Consider them as a sacred component of the divine form. Don’t judge them during the process and expect the same. However, make sure consent and boundaries are respected.
Way to go…
We have explored this sacred practice that has revitalized romance and revived couples in detail. It offers profound benefits for their holistic well-being and fosters a deep connection that harmonizes mind, body, and spirit. So why don’t you give it a try for yourself?
